Thursday, August 14, 2008

Thoughtful Thursdays: First Dates

So, I'm having one of "those days" where the wheels are barely spinning in my brain. "Wake up, hamsters!!! Run faster!!" :)
So, since I am faaaaarrrr from being full of thoughts today, how about y'all dig up some thoughts?

One of my favorite things to reflect back on in life is my relationship with my now-husband. Our friendship relationship, dating relationship, engagement and now marriage. I could seriously write a book on all my thoughts and memories on that topic!!!

So today, let's all clear out the cob webs in our archive filing cabinets of life and reflect back on our First Dates!!! It can be your first date ever, first date with your husband, a hilarious date, your worst date, anything!!!

So, to get us started, here's my story I'd like to share:

Zack and I had been best friends for 4-5 months. One Friday night, we were supposed to meet up with a group of friends to go ice skating, but we never found them (or at least that's what Zack said...he was driving!). So finally, we decided just to hang out on our own and do our own thing.

We went to the canal and looked at all the beautiful lights (it was Christmas time!). We even took a picture of ourselves! Then we went to the Gardens, walked around, talked, and laughed. At that point, we were pretty hungry, so Zack decided we should get a bite to eat. When the bill came, he realized he left his wallet in the car, so I ended up paying!!!!

Afterwards, we headed out to the restaurant playground. Remember, its December so it is FREEZING. we sat on the teeter totter for 2 hours and talked. We ended up holding hands, keeping each others hands warm :) I think at that point we realized it had turned into a date, because we had had those flirty feelings for each other for awhile now, and we both knew it :)

To this day, we still share with others and joke that I had to pay for our first date!
ok, your turn...

14 lovely comments:

HeathahLee said...

Oh, yes, a book I could write! What am I? Yoda? Anyway, my first date with my husband was very sweet, eating at a Cajun restaurant and going to a movie. It was Three Mustketeers with Charlie Sheen, Kieffer Sutherland, and Chris O'Donnell. I think the most memorable thing about our date was when we bowed our heads for him to ask the blessing, I grabbed his hand without even thinking about it! Ack! It was just what we did at home, So I didn't give it a second thought till after he was done. I was a little embarrassed, but he told me later he thought it was extremely sweet. We've been "dating" each other now for the past 14 1/2 years! And still hold hands during the blessing! : )

Jamie said...

My husband asked me out and I wasn't sure I wanted to be anything more than friends but I went along. We had a really great time just like we always did when we got together. We went and saw a movie and ate at a nice restaurant. We didn't start dating until about a month later (I was dating someone else, kind of) but when we did, we were inseperable so I can't remember our first date after we actually got together.

Smilingsal said...

Ah, meeting husband stories are the best!

Anonymous said...

First Date with DAD?!! Oh, my...that was at least 35 years ago! Sorry, my "hamsters" ARE NOT running that fast to even produce a spark! However... I vividly remember things like, the first time he told me he loved me, our first romantic walk in the night time snow and our first BIG date or "formal date" at Ball State...homecoming...it was a day long event! Beginning with the Homecoming Parade, lunch at the stadium, watching the Cardinals win in the pouring down and freezing rain and THEN an evening at Emmonds Auditorium. I wore a long maroon colored dress with a white knitted shawl, to this evening extravaganza. Dad was suffering from a TERRIBLE cold...but "solidered" through the day...because he knew how much it meant to me. :D But by evening...he had had enough! So, in his 19 year old wisdom...he took a cold medicine...but doubled the dose! He said later, he thought that if he did that it would make him feel "doubly" better! NOT! Well, Dion Warwick was the entertainment for the night and she had brought a packed house to the campus. Dad lasted ONE song and then feel DEAD asleep for the remainder of the concert...snoring a few times, I think. Ah...it was memorable! Mostly, because he knew how much this date meant to me and how much I had looked forward to the entire day. He should have been home in bed with a vaporizer running and cough drops in his mouth and probably on an antibiotic, BUT even then as a sophomore in college, he was living up to his name...SuperStev!
Actually, I think our first official date was at a now, non-existent pizza house called "Der Mug" They had phones at every booth with a # on the side of the booth so you could call other tables and talk! I thought it to be very cool! I think we held hands the entire time we ate our pizza! Crazy kids! And then we went with friends and went bowling! Stev was Super even back then! :D This was FUN! Thanks for the trip down "memory lane"...even though...on days like these...I'm still searching for mine!...Memory that is! :D Love, mom

Employee No. 3699 said...

I posted about my first date with My Better Half on July 22nd. In lieu of rewriting, you can find it on the righthand sidebar under 'Firsts'. Check it out if you want a chuckle.

Karen said...

Sorry this so long.... I cut and pasted from my blog.

This one of the most embarrassing nights of my life.Before my children were so kind as build my immune system into Fort Knox, I used to manage a couple of really good colds a year. This April evening was one of them. There was no breathing through my nose, I could barely hear my ears were so plugged, and I was definitely mouth-breathing. If that wasn't enough, my color was off and by the time I was trying to pull myself together to have dinner with this guy, I didn't have time to get the right color of foundation. So I had a choice, no make-up, foundation way too dark, or foundation a bit too light. In my cold medicine delirium, I chose too light. (That had to be pretty.) I was pushing as much cold medicine on myself as I dared. I have never consumed alcohol, other than NyQuil, when necessary to control a cough and get some sleep. Now I should have canceled, being as sick as I was, but in my cold medicine induced state, my judgement was a bit impaired. Some how, I thought it would be perfectly acceptable to go out.

The door bell rings as I am doing a few dishes. Wiping my hands on a dish towel, I answer the door. I would like to say it was love at first sight, but it really wasn't. He wasn't bad to look at, just really, really not my type! I asked him to come in, sounding lovely I'm sure, so I could quickly finish up the dishes. (Why those darn dishes had to be done that minute, I am still not sure. All I can say is, remember the cold medicine.) He is very patient while I deal with my momentary obsession with the dishes.

We met up with a friend and his date at a local diner for dinner. I don't remember to much of that part of the night, other than I ordered a chef salad that could have fed a large rabbit family. The friend and his date had to meet someone at the airport and were parting ways with us for a couple of hours. We were to meet up later at the movie theater. The RS and I now have some time to kill. We talk and drive. We end up in the town my family lives and I went to high school. Now if you have ever been to Magna, UT, you know this is NOT where you take a date to impress him. I think part of me was trying really hard to scare him off. I'm not sure if it was because I was not interested or if that somewhere in my heart, I knew he was my true love. We talked with ease, never an uncomfortable silence. At some point, I tell him I want 12 kids and he shoots back with he wants 13, so he could have a whole baseball team. Then a little later, I tell him that I don't believe in divorce, but that I might believe in manslaughter. (Are these words of an uninterested woman? I am still not sure.)

We end up at my parents home. I introduce the RS to my parents and a few of my siblings. I can tell that my mom is impressed with him. She's giving me the, "What's wrong with you?" look, as she can tell I am not interested in this guy.

When we meet up with the friend and his honey at the movies, it is decided that we will see Forever Young, a movie I have already seen twice. I don't care though. The cold medicine is all the fun I need. As it would turn out, there is an empty seat to one side of me. This ends up being fortunate for whoever decided not to sit there. I am starting to feel a little drowsy. I can feel myself swaying a little. You know how it is when your dating and you don't want to give the guy the wrong impression? Well, I certainly didn't want the RS to think I was romantically intrigued. So, I was refusing to put my arm on the armrest between us.

Oh, the need for sleep was suddenly overwhelming. I was pinching the inside of my arm to stay awake. Didn't do any good. I realized my head is dangling in the empty seat next to me. I hurry and sit up trying to look like nothing has happened since it appeared nobody noticed. Feeling relieved, I discreetly wipe the drool off the side of my face with my sleeve. The adrenaline is starting to wear off from almost being caught, when I realize I am going to have to use some of the arm rest between us. It is the only hope I have to appear awake. I slide my elbows into the back corners of both arm rests, hoping to prop myself up. When I wake up this time, my head is dangling in my lap and I am drooling. (That no breathing through my nose thing was becoming a real problem.) I yank my head up. Not very inconspicuously either, I might add. Once again wiping my face off with my sleeve.

I am still not sure how it happened, but I wake one last time as the movie is ending. My head is on the Rocket Scientist's shoulder. I have managed to drool all down his arm. He has been very sweet to let me sleep. I try to very slyly wipe his arm off with my sleeve. (I know.......... Is this the most disgusting first date you have ever heard? I think I am gagging a little, just trying to tell it.) He never says a word about it. He drives me home. I invite him in. We talk for a few minutes. I have to be up early the next day for work, so he says good night. I walk him out and hug him good-bye. I can tell if I give him an opening, the man is going to kiss my socks off. Since I think he is a geek at this point, I keep my face as far away from his as possible. (Like I had any right thinking he was the geek after what I did to his arm.)

That was it. He left and I went in, crawled into bed and drooled on my pillow. I was actually very relieved that he lived so far away. There would be no need for me to explain I just wasn't interested.

Megan said...

That's funny that you had to pay for the dinner :0) My first date with Dave was at Starbucks, and walking around Chinatown--it was a perfect way to get to know each other. He made me laugh so hard, unlike anyone else--so I knew instantly that he was a keeper.

Sweet Simplicity said...

Ty and I started dating freshman year of high school so at that time we were just having our parents drive us to the movies or to one another's house. Our first real car date didn't happen until we had been dating for a year. I had to beg my mom to let me ride to Lawton with him. About a 15 minute drive. But he was the first one at of all of my friends to drive so it was a big deal for her to say yes. All I can remember about the date is that we ate at Long John Silver's. That's right we were high rollers!

Pleasant Drive said...

Cute story! It was 6.5 months from the time my husband and I went on our first date until the time we walked down the aisle. And, I wouldn't have it any other way. Our first date was 12 hours long. We drove for 2.5 hours to get to Ft. Worth. All of Brian's plans were a bust because of timing or construction. We ended up driving around the greater D/FW area, and finally capped off the night with dinner at The Melting Pot (not a bust!). It was great even though it wasn't what he had in mind.

Erin said...

I love that you went to a playground!! That is so sweet.
My first date with my husband... I was so nervous. I changed my outfit four times that morning. We went to Chicago (only a 45 min drive), where we visited the Planetarium, the Field Museum, and the Shedd Aquarium. It was SO much fun and such a different first date. Then we went home, went out to dinner, stopped by a mutual friend's house, then finally called it quits 10 hours later. He held my hand a little bit on the drive home, then gave me a super sweet hug goodbye. I'd never spent so much time with someone on a first date, but it was just a wonderful, unique day.

William and Megan said...

12/07/01- Megan and William's first date! :) We had known each other for a couple of months and hug out in the same group of friends... but I had no intention of liking him. I went on the date to "be nice" like several of our common friends had asked me to do! We went out with two couples from OBU who were already dating (none of whom are still together now). Drove to bricktown and ate at Spaghetti Warehouse (YUM-O) which took FOREVER to get to because there was an Aerosmith concert in OKC that night- and we were in a car by ourselves... then went to see "Spy Game" aka- worst movie ever in which Brad Pitt is not on the screen nearly enough! :) Anyway, I don't know what went right that night, but 2 weeks later we were "official" and have been inseparable ever since!

Anonymous said...

i was a 1st wk freshman in college. my roommate was from a town an hour away. we went to her town for her boyfriend's b'day that 1st wkend.

i didn't want to sit at home with her parents so she set me up with her boyfriend's roommate. he was VERY unreluctant to go b/c he wanted to play flag football.

during the next week we talked long distance constantly. the next weekend we went back and talked about marriage.

8 mo later we married and had 38 amazing years!

:) melanie

Karen said...

Thanks so much for doing this one! I loved reading your story and everybody elses. I never get enough of this kind of stuff.

Jillian said...

Oh dear. My first date with my Dear Hubs...well, he was 40 minutes late and it was a blind date since we had met on the internet. But, he obviously had other redeeming qualities! Like being charming! :0)
I was leaving the restaurant as he was arriving and he blocked me in with his car...jumped out and said "Are you who I think you are?" (ok, so much for the charming! It was because he was CUTE!)

And the rest is history.

One of these days I'll have to blog abour our first date. Thanks for the great idea!

Jillian

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