I love to do little special things for Zack. So much so, that it might be close to addiction. Whether it is making a pitcher of his favorite tea when he comes home, buying him a shirt I find on sale, or sticking a post-it note on his dashboard in the car. I just want him to know I'm thinking of him that day.
Last week we were talking to a new pastor at our church who said he had been married 10 years. Anyone who has been married longer than me, I always ask what their one piece of advice for a great marriage is. He happens to also do marriage counseling besides his preaching ministry, so we had a wonderful conversation on ideas to do!
-make sure you ALWAYS make time for a date. Big or small, expensive or no cost at all, take time once a week, every two weeks or at least once a month to invest in your relationship with your spouse.
-Teddy Bear: find a small cheap bear of some sort and put a love note on it and hide it for your spouse. Whenever he/she finds it, its their turn to put a note on it and hide it. It only takes a few moments, but it can mean a lot to the receiver of the note!
-Date Scrolls: write down some ideas of things for the two of you to do together and roll them up and put them in a jar. When some free time comes around, have your spouse draw one out, and do the event together. it could be getting some ice cream, renting a movie, making some cookies, fishing, etc. Whatever the two of you enjoy doing!
-Take a Responsiblity: if your spouse normally does the dishes after dinner, volunteer to do it tonight. If they take out the trash, do it for them. If its their turn to bathe the kids, let them relax tonight and take the responsiblity. Make sure they know you're doing it to show love, not to use as a tally in the future!
-52 Weeks of Romance: This one is probably my favorite. you can purchase these at certain locations. There are 52 cards in the bag, half for the man, half for the woman. Each week, one spouse draws a card and has a week to complete the special something for the other. Zack and I did this the first year we were married, and loved it! They're small, meaningful creative ideas that sometimes are hard to come up with on your own. And its fun to surprise your spouse!
I just want to encourage you this week to do something special for your spouse. Anything. Just something to show them how much you love, appreciate and cherish them. And if you're not married, do something speical for a friend! Send them a note of encouragement, or "just wanted to say hey!". Or set up a lunch date, bring them a cup or coffee, or offer to babysit their kids.
I would LOVE to hear some of your ideas or things that you've done! We could all benefit and learn from each other!